Questions from a Beginner

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Permalink Reply by Rudy on May 10, 2009 at 11:23am

fear (except for things like mentally ill, medicine etc) is eventually the only factor to keep people from hypnosis (quote jerry kein).
you should get rid of that, and take your time building this up, since its your wife (can be very hard!)
i'm sure there's lot more advise coming your way below here: i'm also not doing hypnosis that long, although i hypnotized quite some people i can say.....
you gotta get full mutual trust.
good luck danny (nice read b.t.w.) and i'll be reading this thread along with you !:-)
Rudy

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Permalink Reply by Hypnewbie on May 10, 2009 at 12:14pm

Thanks for the reply. I'd hope she'd trust me, being that we've been together for a year and a half, but I guess you're right in that I have to build her comfort with the process more. I think she gets anxious about it also because she knows that I'm really excited about hypnotism, and she may feel like she has to live up to a standard and help me feel success. I don't know. Thanks again :)

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Permalink Reply by Jonathan on May 10, 2009 at 12:51pm

It's a combination of your own experience and expectancy. You're not completely confident that what you're doing will work, and sometimes that is the deciding factor--at first she is just consciously following directions and if you're confident enough when you say "when I touch my earring you will laugh," the line between consciously and unconsciously following becomes very fine. You did good to keep going and keep it light and fun the whole time. My biggest advice for the instant induction is that people will often have a reaction like that, and the most important thing is to tell them just to close their eyes and relax, and you continue your deepening. So drop em and say "sleep!" and don't even acknowledge their reaction, just say "just close your eyes and relax you're doing fine" and go onto an ellman type of deal.

Also, you'll learn how to deal with her reactions to some of the deepening, one thing that worked in the past for me was to use a double bind to the effect of "and if you feel overwhelmed or confused by any of the directions and you feel it would be easier just to completely relax and let your mind go, allow that to happen and just enjoy the experience of relaxation and comfort."

You're doing good, just keep practicing and researching, you'll have it together in no time. Remember, it might be important with this girl to try something new since she expects certain things not to work already. Even if you just reframe one of the techniques into something else by saying "I want to try this a different way that will work better for you" it will get her thinking that this time it's different and she can have a different reaction. Keep up the good work!

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Permalink Reply by Hypnewbie on May 10, 2009 at 1:00pm

Thanks for the response! I'm definitely going to try that double bind.

And thanks for the encouragement :)

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Permalink Reply by Rudy on May 10, 2009 at 1:19pm

Jonathan's right: you'll get it, i'm sure!
I can also tell from your excitement: i kow that feeling lol
You know as well as i do, that once you're that excited and motivated, that you
will get the hang of it, and thus so will you: dont worry... just keep doing it.
It's just that you're definately not picking the easiest subject, to say the least :-)

pick some others to gain confidence as well, since what you're telling seems like the
right way, just lacking a bit of experience. I started doing that not long ago and its feeling great!

Another great way to get a lot of confidence is to take a live class.

Ciao
Rudy

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Permalink Reply by Hypnewbie on May 10, 2009 at 2:30pm

Thanks for the tips! It's good to know that others have had the same struggles, and are now experiencing success :)

i've been looking into live classes, as well. I'm thinking of taking a week-long course at Omni Hypnosis, in FL. I just don't have the funds right now, so I'm trying to learn and practice on my own until I can save up enough and get time off from work to take a class with a pro.

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Permalink Reply by Rudy on May 11, 2009 at 1:18am

by going to Jerry's class, you're taking the best decision one can make: i think he
is the best teacher on the planet!
If its too expensive, you might consider a 1 or 2-day rapid-inductions
course just for confidence (f.e. sean michael andrews) , but then dont
forget to still do that course from jerry on dvd: this is the link
p.m. me for more useful info :-)

rudy

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Permalink Reply by Brandon May on October 5, 2009 at 12:18pm

All the comments here are bang on. However, I guess I'll put in my two cents as well.

I've also run into many of these obstacles when I first began. I found that it was the lack of confidence I had in my voice, because I was beginning, and because I had only a few inductions/information to go on. Confidence in the hypnotist is a MUST. I don't know if this was your problem, but developing that voice that sounded clear and confident helped me immensely.

Also, I find that people who don't necessarily volunteer to become a subject, won't be 100% open to experiencing hypnosis in its entirety, and will try to find some humor in it because they either fear what might happen, or they just don't want to be hypnotized at that moment.

Hopefully everyone has helped you on this post, and I hope I also provided enough information for you to go on.

Good luck, and keep practicing!

Brandon

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Permalink Reply by Alejandro Garcia on November 30, 2009 at 1:01pm

Hello. Its funny cuz' Im experiencing exactly the same things. when I try it with my girlfriend. But In my case I couldn't make her fall asleep. It has been emposible for me. Even when we both have a point. I want to make her a non-smoker for life. And she wants to... I just don't know what to do to induce her a trance...

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